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Tiziano
44 Boston, Massachusetts, United States
Seeking: Female 26 - 45
Rizvan
44 Boston, Massachusetts, United States
Seeking: Female 18 - 38
Salam Aleykum, very nice to meet you. My name is Richard I am unmarried, single, and available. I consider marriage to be a commitment and relationship that starts in this Dunya and will continue Insha Allah in paradise together. I am a US citizen. I live in the USA. I am a gentle man. If I send a message it is to talk to a sister in a normal way, no things that are haram and inappropriate. I know that some of that is going on here, that some people are not appropriate. I am honest and I behave as a man should. Anything of even the slightest sexual nature is for marriage, not before. I am a serious man and will not waste your time. My time is very valuable to me and I know that you also feel this way about your time. I will respect it. I am progressively working toward achieving my dreams, which are many and larger than life Insh Allah إن شاء الله I would like to find a partner who also wants to achieve great things and help me with my dreams. I want to help her too. I have beautiful children and I love being their father. This is the most fulfilling part of my life, and the most challenging. -------------------- REVERSION I reverted to Islam. I pray, participate in the local mosque, and read the Koran. I fast every day of Ramadan. I do not have a beard (but easily grow a decent amount of facial hair on a regular basis). Outward signs of religious practice are far less important to me than the inner spiritual life of following what is right. -------------------- POLYGAMY I believe polygamy is ordained by Allah and I believe that done properly can be a great blessing for all involved. That it is often done poorly does not mean polygamy is bad, it means that humans often do things poorly. I believe in polygamy on a philosophical level and a scientific one. Please do not expect to talk me out of it or be so much woman or such a great wife I will forget about it. That will not happen. I have multiple, important reasons for wishing to structure my family in a polygamous way. I understand if you disagree. I have a small family and want to have a large one, which is the primary reason why I am open to the idea of eventually (not right away) having additional partners, so that there can be many children, inchallah. After 3-5 years together I want you to help me find for us an additional wife to join our family. This is not because you are not enough for me, it is because I want many children and we will need help with that from a 2nd and 3rd wife, eventually. It is also because I want a community of people together because they chose to be. And because many hands make light work. And finally because it is the nature of man to want to love and possess women. My nature, man's nature, is not bad, no matter what the West nor feminism may claim. I will be a man as Allah made me and build the family I feel is right to build. I am extremely honest and would not begin such a process without informing my wife, and allowing her all she needs to feel comfortable in the situation. I would only choose someone she approves of and whom we both agree will make our family even better. A second wife is not a solution to a problem in the current marriage and I would never undertake anything until the first marriage is completely secure, happy and we have had plenty of time to spend together, just us. I would like to have as large a family as possible. I have now raised children for 8 years and it is a HUGE amount of work. I hope that everyone in our family will accept all the children as their own (including mine that I have now) and help in raising them so that we can be great parents and have a life outside of raising them. I envision a community of people living in close proximity in their own homes on a large piece of land and helping one another achieve our dreams, inchallah. Every wife must be treated with great love and equality. I have great love and care within me to share, a great abundance of it. I also have a great store of forgiveness within me. I love myself and thus I am able to love others and accept them as they - a beautiful creation of Allah. As Allah has infinite patience and love for me though I do not deserve it, I strive, and continuously fail, to have the same for all of his children. I will keep trying to be a better man and I will never give up and I will never break my promises. Perhaps the secret to making a polygamous marriage successful is the same secret to making *anything* in life successful: following an ihsaan-centric model, where one puts aside their own selfishness, emotional/ cultural baggage, and double standards in order to pursue a relationship that is pleasing to Allah over all else. I alone am responsible for my decisions, Polygamy is the decision of the husband and he alone must bear all of the consequences. It is not up to the wife to force herself to act like everything is OK if it is not. It is up to the husband to lead and make everything good for her. -------------------- MY HISTORY I have been a Russian Linguist in the US Army (long ago). I eventually left the military because I did not agree with my mission. Ultimately as a soldier you serve the person who has managed to colonize executive office. These wars are misguided and insane and I was thankfully able to leave before being involved in them due to Allah's (swt) divine will. I completed university in Boston at a good school. I studied business and it was quite interesting. I studied business because I was able to complete a four year degree in just two and a half years. I could study anything really. I actually study just as much today as I ever did in college in the pursuit of my dreams. I have a fulfilling and rewarding career that gives me a lot of free time to go for my dreams. I am lucky. I also have my own business that does quite well. I have good financial, and very abundant material, resources. I have traveled often in Europe, especially Germany. Also been in the Balkans quite a bit and visited many other countries in Europe. I have seen a bit of Central America. In the planning stages to see Africa, South America and Asia. -------------------- MAHR I will bring you to the USA and pay all the required money for that, which today is about $5,000 US paid out over 5 years from start to finish. I will pay your travel expenses. I will build you your own home. -------------------- EXPECTATIONS Please want children. I do not mind if you cannot have children, thanks to polygamy this is not an obstacle to our love and marriage. As long as you can love the children I have now and the ones to come we are compatible. You fully and gladly embrace polygamy as a religiously-ordained practice. You do not merely tolerate or accept it with reservations - I am not interested in trading the love and goodwill we create in exchange for your acceptance of a practice you do not want. This will only cause pain and suffering later. I do not want someone to tolerate it and hope for the best. Ideally you come from a culture that practices polygamy on a regular basis and consider it normal. Or you dream of a big, happy, crazy polygamous family for your own reasons or the reasons I do. Tell the truth. The entire truth, all the time. Do not be afraid to speak up and say your opinion. We are partners in this life, I am not your overlord, nor you my slave. It is a fine line between dominance and submission formed out of different personalities in love and falling into pre-made societal roles where we lose our identity. We will work hard each day to navigate the complexity of love. When you arrive in the USA you will not be able to work right away, but once you can, you should. When a baby comes of course you should stay home for some time. But all adults should have employment and leave the home to interact with the world and help contribute to pay the many expenses of the modern world. I like hijabs, they are beautiful. It is your choice to wear one or not. Niqabs are impractical in modern American life and will be very difficult to wear on a daily basis here. إن شاء الله

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